What Your Bride Wants You to Know (for the Groom)

You just told your friends you got engaged and they most likely screamed “Bachelor Party!” before even congratulating you on the big news. That’s all guys care about, right? WRONG. More grooms are stepping up and getting involved in wedding planning. Just think – not only are you marrying the woman of your dreams, you are also throwing what is most likely the biggest party of your life!  So why wouldn’t you get involved? Here are a few helpful ideas to get involved in the wedding planning.
 

BE INSPIRED

Today’s groom is becoming more involved in the planning right from the start by gathering ideas on the web, researching vendors and getting involved in the details of the day. Modern brides are just as busy with their careers as the grooms. The joint effort in brainstorming is welcomed.  

WRITE YOUR VOWS

If writing your own vows is something you think you might be interested in, be sure to mention this to her! It’s a great way to really share how you feel – not only with one another, but also with your family and friends. If you don’t have someone to officiate the ceremony, consider interviewing a few ordained ministers or asking a close friend to marry the two of you. What a wonderful way to personalize the service! Do your homework prior to sharing with her, though. She’ll be pretty impressed that you cared enough to think this through.

SHE CAN'T READ YOUR MIND

If she asks for your opinion, tell her. Saying you simply don’t care can leave an unfavorable impression. She may ask if you like the color palette she’s considering. If you do, let her know! If you don’t, recommend another option. It may not be what she had in mind for the wedding, but it could end up being a perfect option for the rehearsal dinner! Practicing compromise is a good habit to get into. Remember, the rehearsal dinner can be a completely different style from the wedding. So if it’s a Las Vegas Style Casino you want... then go for it!
 

GET INVOLVED

The tastings are a great way for the two of you to connect.  This is one of those appointments every groom enjoys.  Selecting the meal together is a wonderful way to make the wedding your own! If comfort foods seem to be your favorites, go for some mini gourmet burgers, pigs in a blanket, individual mac & cheese servings and ice cream cones served with cake for your hors d’ouerves and late night snacks. Allow your chef to get creative for your tasting.  Cute food paired with great presentation is sure to please your guests.
 

LISTEN

A good piece of advice for the wedding and beyond is to listen. She will tell you many things about the wedding.  Some are not as important, but others are VERY important!  She might not verbally tell you something but assume you know because she’s under the impression you actually read the invitation. Yes, this has happened – I have heard the groom ask the bride at the rehearsal what time he needs to be somewhere the next day and not know what time the wedding actually starts.

BE THE HERO

Don’t forget to ask your planner for some help or ideas for the wedding night. Flowers, chocolates, champagne and lots of candles for your bridal suite will mark the perfect ending to the perfect day. Putting something together for the honeymoon is another great way to surprise her! The possibilities are endless. What a wonderful way to show your wife how much you appreciate all she has done and remind her why she said yes!

It’s always great to see a couple show up together for the initial meeting with a planner – both are involved in the planning right from the start, making the event their own.  It’s all about the two of you and what you want, all while understanding and fulfilling each other’s needs.  

So to both of you: don’t forget to smile, sit back, relax and enjoy the ride... of your life (together!)