What Your Groom Wants You to Know

Traditionally speaking, it is not uncommon for the groom to take a more passive approach when it comes to the wedding planning process. However, what your groom may want you to know is that he does have an interest, and would like to be included. Modern couples of today are taking a more collaborative approach when it comes to making the wedding decisions.  By doing so, their wedding day will truly be unique, and their personalities will stand out to their guests.

With so many items and services centered around the bride, it can become easy to overlook the groom in the whirlwind of excitement that is the wedding planning process. There are several ways to make sure that your groom is included.
 

HE WANTS TO HELP OUT

First, start by making and divvying up the “to do” list. Don’t forget to take into account personal interests. For example, if the groom is a “numbers kind of guy,” why not let him help with the budget and keep a record of the spending. If he is a real music buff, then maybe he should be in charge of the DJ or band selection. If his true passion is technology, why not let him get your wedding website up and running?

LET HIM HANDLE THE HONEYMOON

The honeymoon is another area that could be of interest to your groom. Many grooms handle this aspect of the wedding planning on their own. Some make it a complete surprise for their brides and others make it a collaborative effort.

REPRESENT YOUR TASTE AND HIS

The food selection is another area to consider your groom. Try to plan your tasting of both the reception meal as well as the cake at a time that will work for both you and your groom. Speaking of cake, why not research the possibility of the groom’s cake? A groom’s cake can be a great way to showcase one of his personal interests, and can be a great way to let your groom know you wanted something special just for him at your wedding. Keep in mind the placement of the groom’s cake as well. Don’t just put it in the corner – showcase it on its own or next to the wedding cake for all to see. This will certainly make your groom smile!  

DON'T JUST ASSUME HE'S NOT INTERESTED

When creating your “to do” list as a couple, don’t rule out areas you don’t think will interest your groom. Be sure to ask him if he would like to be included in the floral and attire selection. What the groom wears is a reflection of his own personal style. He may be comfortable in a particular style of tux. Depending on the formality of your event, a suit may even be an option. He may have input on the type or color of tie or foot attire. He may welcome the thought of being asked his opinion and even adding this to his list.

WORK TOGETHER ON IT

Also, be sure to include due dates for each item on your “to do” list.  This is a great way to keep on track and even turn this project into a fun competition for the two of you. His competitive side just might come out, and you may have a “to do” list that is accomplished in no time at all! However you decide to go about the planning process for your special day, just be sure to include your groom!  He wants you to know it’s just as important to him as it is to you.